10 Things I’ve Learned from Living with a Psychic

My husband, Stephen, looking pensive.

1. When he says drive carefully, stay home. Stephen and I have been married for almost 25 years. Twice during our marriage, he casually remarked, “Drive carefully” when we left for work in the morning. Both times I ended up in an automobile accident that wasn’t my fault. Now I know better. If he makes a similar comment in the future, I will stay home.
2. Strange things go on at 3 a.m. Stories from people I’ve interviewed seem to bear this out—from a man who was nagged by a diseased aunt to a  spirit at our house trying to pull Stephen into a vortex. Fortunately, I’m a sound sleeper so I tend to miss all the excitement. Well, except once when someone came to visit me while I was in a semi-sleep state (read “Ungrateful Dead” in book one). But for Stephen and other people who are psychic, 3 a.m. is a high traffic time.
3. Departed loved ones watch over us. One women I interviewed smelled her father’s cologne, another heard her dad’s familiar footsteps—sometimes it’s just a feeling. But the people we love are there, to whisper comforting words into our minds when we need support, and to share in our celebrations. My brother-in-law saw a fleeting glimpse of his late mother, Connie, at his 40th surprise birthday party (read “Party Crasher”). It made him feel good to know she was there.
4. Bad energy lies in wait. Well, that sounds ominous. Let’s just say that people who are psychic can feel bad energy spots. I can recall many a time we entered the local mall and Stephen would turn to me and say that the energy there was quite negative. When we first got married I didn’t take these claims all that seriously, but I eventually learned that if we didn’t get out of negative energy, Stephen could get sick. Many psychics actually get panic attacks from that type of exposure.
5. Past lives can affect us when we least expect it. Stephen once met man at work who gave him chest pains. With some regression work, he found out the man had stabbed him in a past life. Apparently, he wasn’t the nicest of people in that life, but in this one he was just fine. Stephen did a meditation during which he forgave the man, and the pain—which he had inexplicably felt whenever he was near the man—went away (read “Fatal Recall”).
6. It isn’t easy being psychic. Many psychics suffer from nervous system-related illnesses. Dr. Diane Hennacy-Powell, a neuropsychiatrist who taught at Harvard Medical School, observed that people with strong psychic ability appear to have highly sensitive nervous systems. One physicist I spoke to suggested that when those nervous systems get overloaded, illnesses such as migraines, fibromyalgia, multiple sclerosis, and epilepsy can occur. I found this was not uncommon in the many people with psychic ability I interviewed for both of my books.
7. Energy overload can cause panic attacks. As I mentioned before, many psychics do not like to go out to places like malls or any location where there are crowds. The energy overwhelms them and they get panic attacks. People who are sensitive to the energy of others do best out in nature or just staying snuggly inside the cocoon of their home.
8.  Everything is imprinted with energy. Stephen can pick up an object and feel the energy of its former owner (read “The Envelope, Please”). Sometimes there’s more than a trace of energy. Paranormal researcher and author Debi Chestnut spent twenty-five years investigating house hauntings and, based on her experiences, found that objects can actually be haunted. If paranormal activity starts very suddenly, recent purchases at a flea market, garage sale, or antique store may be to blame. Ghosts may haunt an item that they cherished while they were alive. This could include almost anything, such as jewelry, a toy, furniture, or clothing.To pinpoint the haunted object, keep track of what room the paranormal activity occurs in most. If that’s where the recent purchase resides, chances are there’s energy attached to it. The easiest way to make that energy leave is to get rid of that object.
9.  Psychics can rarely read spouses. Most people with psychic ability can’t read their spouses. That’s because over time, the energy of partners tends to merge and reading a spouse is like trying to read yourself. Very few psychics can do that. I may get occasional warnings or Stephen may tell me he feels work coming my way (I’m a freelance writer), but that’s about it.
10. Energy doesn’t have to be bad to be bad for you. While working as the assistant manager of the mall bookstore, Stephen encountered a woman named Karen whose energy field had a strange effect on him. Apparently, the feeling was mutual. Whenever Karen came in to shop, they would both become sick if they stood within twenty feet of each other. Karen and Stephen are both nice people, but their energy just wasn’t compatible (read “Bad Company”).

I guess there are many more things I’ve learned over the years from being married to a psychic, but these are the ones that easily come to mind. If you’d like to read more about the psychic adventures of everyday people, pick up a copy of Loitering at the Gate to Eternity (book one) or Sightseeing in the Undiscovered Country (book two). You may find, as I did, that paranormal experiences are much more common than you think!